what is sexual energy
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What is our sexual energy, how to feel it and use it properly?

“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” -Nikola Tesla

I love this quote very much, I have spent much time trying to realise what this means. I have comprehended that our reality is not made of solid matter, but everything is energy in motion. If stones are energy in movement, then how do we perceive their solidity?  It is because atoms of stone are moving very slowly, and they are also distributed in a very densely grid. This makes us experience rocks as solid units. On the other hand, atoms of air are moving very fast, and they are distributed in such a way that we can go through it. Just as the stone and air, the body has it’s own energy and frequency as well. The force that has formed a body is sexual energy. We are created out of sex. If there were no sex, there would not be us. When we are conceived in our mother’s belly, this magical force keeps nurturing and creating our life. As long as, we do have this energy we are going to live. When this energy is depleted, we are dying.  This divine energy has many names in different cultures in the world, so you probably have already heard for it under the names like: ” CHI, PRANA, KI, GREAT SPIRIT.” That energy is flowing through our bodies continually, having its own pathways. You can sense it in many ways, either like tails in our hands, knots in the throat, maybe like butterflies in the stomach, but the best and fastest way to feel it is the sensation in your genitals. Source of this force is in our genitals, it is the place where it is created, so it is the easiest way to feel it there. It is funny how we were taught to be ashamed of our sexual energy and this powerful force. Even funnier is that nobody taught us how to manage our sexual energy, how to play with it and use it in vigorous, productive and healthy ways. If you don’t know yet, you can use your sexual energy to create a life, to create whatever you want infusing sexual energy (for example you can cultivate your sexual energy and then channel it into writing, cooking, drawing or whatever you want to create), to gather it and nurture your organs and body, or to expand it in mind-blowing orgasm. What is also very important about this energy, is that you need to control it and guide it how you want, or it will control you. If you don’t know how to master it, it will become the master of you, and you will end up in having many one night stands, or becoming a porn addict, sex addict, etc. This energy can really be a demonic or a divine force, and it is up to you to make it serve you in a positive way. The Tantra is teaching us how sex is sacred, and how we should be careful with whom we are sharing our divine energy. Tantra is also showing us how we can spread our sexual energy during the sex act so that we experience an orgasm of the whole body and not only genital orgasm. When you experience full body orgasm, every and each cell of your body is fed and nurtured. Every cell is dancing in cosmic universal love dance, leaving you stimulated, blessed and glowing for hours, days or even weeks. As I said, an excessive amount of not controlled sexual energy will master you. But, what is happening when someone can’t feel their sexual energy and desire? Most of my clients had this problem, they complained about how their sexual energy and desire is lost. Sexual desire can’t be lost, it is sleeping in your body and waiting for you to awaken it. You can do this in many ways, but one of my favourites is to recall on the highest pitch of your sexual desire in the past. For my heart, I call you to remember this sweet, juice and hot days again. By just thinking about it you may start to feel your sexual energy awakening in your body. You can also reawaken it if you read some erotic story or if you fantasise what you would like to try in sex. I don’t recommend porno movies for this purpose for many reasons, and it is better for your imagination to create pictures than to watch it. I will discuss the porno topic in some other post. You can call a friend and talk about sex, this one is very interesting, haha. There are many ways to reawaken your sexual energy and desire, to use it in a good way, to celebrate it and embrace it. This energy is a divine force, we should not be ashamed of it, we should not use it in bad way or to escape it. It is sacred. It can nourish our body, free our soul and pour love in our hearts. It can provide us with cosmic orgasms and universal love. The time has come for women to reawaken goddesses within them and to become free, wild women embracing their sexuality and life force. To unleash the goddess within, to love every inch of their body and do not fear the magnificent being they will become. If you want to become this wild woman, and you need guidance and help, you can book a discovery call with me. I am here to support you on your path of reclaiming your power back.